By the time you put in that Offer to Purchase on the home you are absolutely in love with in Bentonville Arkansas……consider a few things.
You may have already been in the process of purchasing a home for months. Now the official transaction starts and you may feel that every hurdle is an obstacle. The Inspection, Repair, Survey Addendum makes you feel combative because the seller seemingly isn't interested in fixing that damage on the roof. Perhaps you negotiated a financially tight deal, and the seller is feeling squeezed to the max. They delayed responding until the last minute and you are feeling on the edge of your patience. You finally get through that, and the seller is now requesting an extended closing date. Again, frustration. All is not working to plan. Try to keep a few points in mind: The seller is working as hard as you to sell their home. They may be purchasing a home where that seller in Fayetteville got delayed by the bank, thus pushing back their expected move in date, in turn, pushing yours back. The wife may be trying to push back closing so that she doesn't deliver a new baby while in the process of moving. The roof repair may just be a sore spot between the seller and the insurance company, and they are not happy about having to fix it out of pocket. Or all of their funds from the sell of the home may be needed for their next purchase and they could be very tight on funds. They could be working with a builder in Centerton where they are moving, and that builder got rained out for two weeks, thus unable to complete their job in the time they arranged. Things happen in such intimate transactions. Do not expect perfection. Do expect everyone to be working as hard as possible to keep everything as you would like it, but be realistic. These are the largest purchases of our lives. They cannot be managed in the same way as purchasing a singular item. People's lives are involved. Where they live daily, how they get to work, where they work, where their children play. This is not simple. It all always works out. But it may be frustrating at times. Prepare your self on the front end to be patient with anything that pops up. Be patient with the opposite side of the transaction, no matter how frustrated you are. The old adage of walking in another's shoes applies here. You don't know what they are having to rearrange themselves to make requests happen as you ask for them. Keep in mind that they are people just like you and suffer from the same life challenges. When people are patient on either side of the transaction, it is much less stressful for all parties involved. Most of the time there is no true need to take any of it personally, even though when things are happening "in the moment" it can feel that way. |
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